Children

Working with children (10+)

Until the age of 7 children cannot tell what is real and what is fantasy, taking on and absorbing everything around them with little or no questioning.

Children of this age learn from doing, from what is happening around them. They learn from their environments, their parents and peers, taking anything and everything they see, hear or feel as reality. Consequently, this then begins to form patterns that become a roadmap for their subsequent years.

Often experiences are positive and beneficial for our children, but experiences that may have been misunderstandings, or communication mishaps at the time, not intended to be harmful in anyway, result in lifelong limiting beliefs for the individual. Let me give you an example: A person has a debilitating fear of having their photo taken. Do they really have a fear of having their photo taken? Maybe not. More likely to be a limiting belief formed when they were a child, when they were made to smile for a photo perhaps, when they really didn’t want to, when they simply weren’t in the mood, or wanted to play, or didn’t feel “pretty”. This cycle would have been repeated numerous times, causing the youngster uneasiness each and every time, forming a pattern in the unconscious mind. This pattern, or “program” would then keeping running in the background, getting stronger and stronger, causing the individual excessive anxiety every time a camera came out, with no visible threats.

Anxieties can spill into bedtime routines, into unexplainable fears or phobias and often neither the child or parent can rationalise this behaviour.

Solution focused therapy can help change these established neuropathways and set your child free. Therapy with me is all online, eliminating all time, travel and stresses. It’s fun, engaging and can be utterly life changing. Working with your child, I will use the power of their imagination to tap into their subconscious mind helping them to overcome emotional fears and upsets. I will use stories and metaphors in their world, to help them not only see how they can make small changes to the way they think, but help them to incorporate everyday tools to help them cope better. I am CRB checked, fully insured and qualified and come with nearly 20 years of therapy experience.